Start thinking about yourself as a lifetime student at a large university. Your curriculum is your total relationship with the world you live in, from the moment you’re born to the moment you die.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
Taking responsibility means not blaming yourself… Anything that takes away your power or your pleasure makes you a victim. Don’t make yourself a victim of yourself!
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
Rather than understand the original cause—a thought—we try to change the stressful feelings by looking outside ourselves.
—Byron Katie (b.1942) American Speaker, Author
Anger is your clue that you are not taking responsibility.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
See if you can go a week without criticizing anyone or complaining about anything.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
If you are focused on “the way it’s supposed to be,” you might miss the opportunity to enjoy the way it is or to have it be wonderful in a totally different way from what you imagined.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
I have come to believe that there are only two kinds of experiences in life: those that stem from our Higher Self and those that have something to teach us. We recognize the first as pure joy and the latter as struggle. But they are both perfect. Each time we confront some intense difficulty, we know there is something we haven’t learned yet, and the universe is now giving us the opportunity to learn.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
Why be miserable when you can be happy?
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
The most important thing is for you to be your own best friend. Whatever you are doing—don’t put yourself down. Slowly begin to discover which, for you, is the path of the heart. Which path in life will make you grow? That is the path to take.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
In a sense, your need to please shows you what you have to work on—and that is: letting go emotionally of the role of child and stepping into the role of adult.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
Rich people work hard and believe it’s perfectly appropriate to be well rewarded for their efforts and the value they provide for others. Poor people work hard, but due to their feelings of unworthiness, they believe that it is inappropriate for them to be well rewarded for their efforts and the value they provide.
—T. Harv Eker (b.1954) American Motivational Speaker, Lecturer, Author
The biggest pitfall as you make your way through your life is impatience.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
Are you a “victim,” or are you taking responsibility for your life?
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
I’ve created the concept of a holi-hour, a shortened version of a holi-day. I allow myself at least an hour each day to relax totally.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
So take only those risks each day that build your sense of self-worth. These are the risks that enhance your ability to deal with your fears. EXPAND! EXPAND! EXPAND!
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
Thoughts lead to feelings. Feelings lead to actions. Actions leads to results.
—T. Harv Eker (b.1954) American Motivational Speaker, Lecturer, Author
Taking responsibility means never blaming anyone else for anything you are being, doing, having, or feeling.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.
—Mark Twain (1835–1910) American Humorist
We create stress for ourselves because you feel like you have to do it. You have to. I don’t feel that anymore
—Oprah Winfrey (b.1954) American TV Personality
If everybody feels fear when approaching something totally new in life, yet so many are out there “doing it” despite the fear, then we must conclude that fear is not the problem.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
Your programming leads to your thoughts; your thoughts lead to your feelings; your feelings lead to your actions; your actions leads to your results. Therefore, just as is done with a personal computer, by changing your programming, you take the first essential step to changing your results.
—T. Harv Eker (b.1954) American Motivational Speaker, Lecturer, Author
Your nature is truth, and when you oppose it, you don’t feel like yourself. Stress never feels as natural as peace does.
—Byron Katie (b.1942) American Speaker, Author
Taking responsibility means being aware of where and when you are NOT taking responsibility so that you can eventually change.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
When you give your subsconscious the message “I can’t,” your subconscious really believes you and registers on its computer: WEAK… WEAK… WEAK…
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
Whether it feels like it or not, you already have more power than you could ever have imagined. We all have.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
Now I know that when I am angry at my husband, I simply have to ask myself, “What am I not doing in my life that I could be doing that I am blaming him for not doing for me?”
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
We all want to fall in love. Why? Because that experience makes us feel completely alive. Where every sense is heightened, every emotion is magnified, our everyday reality is shattered and we are flying into the heavens. It may only last a moment, an hour, an afternoon. But that doesn’t diminish its value. Because we are left with memories that we treasure for the rest of our lives.
—Unknown
One of the most valuable lessons in learning to diminish fear is embodied in the phrase SAY YES TO YOUR UNIVERSE.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
When you see yourself connected to something bigger than yourself, you no longer feel you must do it all alone. Your sense of power becomes highly magnified, and your fears are greatly diminished.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
You don’t become powerful without concentrating your power.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
From this moment on, every time you feel afraid, remind yourself that it is simply because you are not feeling good enough about yourself.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
Remember that underlying all our fears is a lack of trust in ourselves.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
The point to remember is that when you blame any outside force for any of your experience of life, you are literally giving away all your power and thus creating pain, paralysis and depression.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
It is reported that more than 90% of what we worry about never happens. That means that our negative worries have less than a 10% chance of being correct. If this is so, isn’t being positive more realistic than being negative? Think about your own life. I’ll wager that most of what you worry about never happens. So are you being realistic when you worry all the time? No!
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
When you realize that suffering and discomfort are the call to inquiry, you may actually begin to look forward to uncomfortable feelings. You may even experience them as friends coming to show you what you have not yet investigated thoroughly enough.
—Byron Katie (b.1942) American Speaker, Author
The truth is that love and power go together.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
It is easy to be swept away by some overwhelming feeling, so it’s helpful to remember that any stressful feeling is like a compassionate alarm clock that says, “You’re caught in the dream”.
—Byron Katie (b.1942) American Speaker, Author
I had to shift from being afraid of making a mistake to being afraid of not making a mistake.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
If you’ve truly committed yourself to something, given it all you’ve got, and then concluded that it is not for you—move on to something else.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
As far as I know, everyone feels fear as he or she moves forward through life. It is absolutely possible that there are some evolved souls in this world who never experience fear, but I have not met them.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
You can actually shift your thinking in such a way as to make a wrong decision or mistake an impossibility.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
You may never relate the experiences of others, especially those of celebrities, to your life. You may think they are lucky because they aren’t afraid to put themselves out there. Not so! They had to push through a tremendous amount of fear to get where they are today… and they are still pushing.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
Commitment doesn’t mean that it has to last forever, but while you are there, commit yourself 100%. By doing this, the quality of your life improves 100%.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
All you have to do to find a way out of your self-imposed prison is to retrain your thinking.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
No one is more unloving than a person who can’t own his or her own love.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
All you have to do to change your world is change the way you think about it.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
The miracle is not to walk on water. The miracle is to walk on the green earth in the present moment, to appreciate the peace and beauty that are available now.
—Thich Nhat Hanh (b.1926) Vietnamese Buddhist Religious Leader, Teacher, Author, Peace Activist
I have never experienced a stressful feeling that wasn’t caused by attaching to an untrue thought. Behind every uncomfortable feeling, there’s a thought that isn’t true for us.
—Byron Katie (b.1942) American Speaker, Author
You can attract only that which you mentally become and feel yourself to be in reality.
—Ernest Holmes (1887–1960) American New Thought Writer, Teacher
When you stay centered there is nothing to fear.
—Susan Jeffers (1938–2012) American Psychologist, Self-Help Author
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