Barbara De Angelis (b.1951) is an American self-help author, spiritual teacher, and television personality. She is known for blending marketing and common-sense counsel to nestle in the pantheon of highly visible self-improvement gurus.
Born in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, De Angelis received an unaccredited PhD degree by correspondence from the now-defunct Columbia Pacific University in San Rafael, California. Previously, she was married to John Gray, author of Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus (1992.)
De Angelis’s publications on relationships and personal growth include How to Make Love All the Time (1991,) Secrets About Men Every Woman Should Know (1990,) Are You The One for Me? (1993,) Real Moments: Discover the Secret for True Happiness (1995,) and Confidence: Finding It And Living It (2005.)
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In order to experience everyday spirituality, we need to remember that we are spiritual beings spending some time in a human body.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Spirituality, Spirit
Men are just as sensitive, and in some ways more sensitive, than women are.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Men, Women, Men & Women
Living with integrity means:
* Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships.
* Asking for what you want and need from others.
* Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension.
* Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values.
* Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Integrity
If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Love, Self-Esteem, Self-love
You can’t ask for what you want unless you know what it is. A lot of people don’t know what they want or they want much less than they deserve. First you have figure out what you want. Second, you have to decide that you deserve it. Third, you have to believe you can get it. And, fourth, you have to have the guts to ask for it.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Questions
No matter what age you are, or what your circumstances might be, you are special, and you still have something unique to offer. Your life, because of who you are, has meaning.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Charity, Giving
No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Self-Control, Happiness
We need to find the courage to say NO to the things and people that are not serving us if we want to rediscover ourselves and live our lives with authenticity.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Courage, Bravery
You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Love, Fear
Love’s greatest gift is its ability to make everything it touches sacred.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Love
Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible – it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could.
—Barbara De Angelis
Men aren’t the way they are because they want to drive women crazy; they’ve been trained to be that way for thousands of years. And that training makes it very difficult for men to be intimate.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Men
A man’s brain has a more difficult time shifting from thinking to feeling than a women’s brain does.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Men, Women, Men & Women
The more connections you and your lover make, not just between your bodies, but between your minds, your hearts, and your souls, the more you will strengthen the fabric of your relationship, and the more real moments you will experience together.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Love
What allows us, as human beings, to psychologically survive life on earth, with all of its pain, drama, and challenges, is a sense of purpose and meaning
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Purpose
Difficult times always create opportunities for you to experience more love in your life.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Difficulty, Difficulties
Only when your consciousness is totally focused on the moment you are in can you receive whatever gift, lesson, or delight that moment has to offer.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Focus
Women need real moments of solitude and self-reflection to balance out how much of ourselves we give away.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Solitude
Love is a choice you make from moment to moment.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Love
You don’t develop courage by being happy in your relationships everyday. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Relationships, Age, Time, Happy, Adversity, Courage
Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Love, Kindness
The journey between what you once were and who you are now becoming is where the dance of life really takes place.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Journeys
The greatest gift you and your partner can give your children is the example of an intimate, healthy, and loving relationship.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Example
When you make a commitment to a relationship, you invest your attention and energy in it more profoundly because you now experience ownership of that relationship.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Commitment
When you’re used to getting just a piece of bread for a meal, you don’t realize that you can ask for a plate of pasta. You have never seen a plate of pasta. You don’t even know it exists. So, to ask for it is totally out of your reality. Hopefully, at some point, either someone shows you a plate of pasta, you read about it, or you hear about it enough so that it becomes real, and it’s not just a fantasy anymore, and then you start thinking “Hey, I want that pasta”.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Thinking, Think, Past
The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It’s a choice you make—not just on your wedding day, but over and over again—and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Marriage
Only when your consciousness is totally focused on the moment you are in can you receive whatever gift, lesson, or delight that moment has to offer.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Focus, Concentration
The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Past, The Present, Anger, The Past
Marriage is not a noun; it’s a verb. It isn’t something you get. It’s something you do. It’s the way you love your partner every day.
—Barbara De Angelis
Topics: Marriage
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