The curse which lies upon marriage is that too often the individuals are joined in their weakness rather than in their strength—each asking from the other instead of finding pleasure in giving. It is even more deceptive to dream of gaining through the child a plenitude, a warmth, a value, which one is unable to create for oneself; the child brings joy only to the woman who is capable of disinterestedly desiring the happiness of another, to one who without being wrapped up in self seeks to transcend her own existence.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Marriage
One is not born a woman, one becomes one.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Women
Since it is the Other within us who is old, it is natural that the revelation of our age should come to us from outside—from others. We do not accept it willingly.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Age, Aging
The writer of originality, unless dead, is always shocking, scandalous; novelty disturbs and repels.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Originality, Writing
In itself, homosexuality is as limiting as heterosexuality: the ideal should be to be capable of loving a woman or a man; either, a human being, without feeling fear, restraint, or obligation.
—Simone de Beauvoir
The most mediocre of males feels himself a demigod as compared with women.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Equality
To emancipate woman is to refuse to confine her to the relations she bears to man, not to deny them to her; let her have her independent existence and she will continue nonetheless to exist for him also: mutually recognising each other as subject, each will yet remain for the other an other. The reciprocity of their relations will not do away with the miracles—desire, possession, love, dream, adventure—worked by the division of human beings into two separate categories; and the words that move us—giving, conquering, uniting—will not lose their meaning. On the contrary, when we abolish the slavery of half of humanity, together with the whole system of hypocrisy that it implies, then the ‘division’ of humanity will reveal its genuine significance and the human couple will find its true form.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Hypocrisy
All the idols made by man, however terrifying they may be, are in point of fact subordinate to him, and that is why he will always have it in his power to destroy them.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Those interested in perpetuating present conditions are always in tears about the marvelous past that is about to disappear, without having so much as a smile for the young future.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Change
To make oneself an object, to make oneself passive, is a very different thing from being a passive object.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Acceptance
Sex pleasure in woman is a kind of magic spell; it demands complete abandon; if words or movements oppose the magic of caresses, the spell is broken.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Sex
No one is more arrogant toward women, more aggressive or scornful, than the man who is anxious about his virility.
—Simone de Beauvoir
This has always been a man’s world, and none of the reasons that have been offered in explanation have seemed adequate.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Explanation
I wish that every human life might be pure transparent freedom.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Freedom
In the face of an obstacle which is impossible to overcome, stubbornness is stupid.
—Simone de Beauvoir
The ideal of happiness has always taken material form in the house, whether cottage or castle; it stands for permanence and separation from the world.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Home
It is old age, rather than death, that is to be contrasted with life. Old age is life’s parody, whereas death transforms life into a destiny: in a way it preserves it by giving it the absolute dimension. Death does away with time.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Aging, Age
Change your life today. Don’t gamble on the future, act now, without delay.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Future, Miscellaneous, Change
When an individual is kept in a situation of inferiority, the fact is that he does become inferior.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Women, Feminism
I tore myself away from the safe comfort of certainties through my love for truth — and truth rewarded me.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Certainty, Truth
Man is defined as a human being and woman as a female—whenever she behaves as a human being she is said to imitate the male.
—Simone de Beauvoir
One’s life has value so long as one attributes value to the life of others, by means of love, friendship, indignation, compassion.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Compassion, Service
Buying is a profound pleasure.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Shopping
Self-knowledge is no guarantee of happiness, but it is on the side of happiness and can supply the courage to fight for it.
—Simone de Beauvoir
It is in the knowledge of the genuine conditions of our lives that we must draw our strength to live and our reasons for living.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Few tasks are more like the torture of Sisyphus than housework, with its endless repetition: the clean becomes soiled, the soiled is made clean, over and over, day after day. The housewife wears herself out marking time: she makes nothing, simply perpetuates the present … Eating, sleeping, cleaning—the years no longer rise up towards heaven, they lie spread out ahead, grey and identical. The battle against dust and dirt is never won.
—Simone de Beauvoir
One is not born a genius. One becomes a genius.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Genius
Society cares for the individual only so far as he is profitable.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Society
Retirement may be looked upon either as a prolonged holiday or as a rejection, a being thrown on to the scrap-heap.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Retirement
It’s frightening to think that you mark your children merely by being yourself. It seems unfair. You can’t assume the responsibility for everything you do—or don’t do.
—Simone de Beauvoir
Topics: Parents, Parenting
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